Wonder Woman

When I was younger, there was only one thing I really wanted to be: Superman. Unfortunately, I can't fly, I don't have super strength, and I've never tried, but I'm pretty sure I'm not bulletproof. Not to mention my physique, which is not exactly super. Maybe I didn't grow up to be Superman, but I got close, because I married Wonder Woman. For those of you who read this and know Erica, you know what I'm talking about, or you at least have an idea. For those of you who don't know Erica, you're missing out.

Why is Erica so awesome? Where do I start? The world has it's own ideas about what makes a "wonder woman". This is a picture of perfection- the ultimate career woman who is also the ultimate soccer mom, who also keeps a perfect house, whose kids are just perfect, and through all of this her make up stays perfect and not a hair is out of place. This is not reality. The sad thing is that the world is missing out because the reality is so much better.

Erica does not have a career. She gave that up, by choice for her kids. Our house may not always be perfect, and neither are our kids. My wife doesn't have to worry about her make up smearing, because she is more beautiful without it, than she ever could be with, and fortunately for her, her hair looks great no matter what. So apparently. she does not fir the world's perception of perfection.

Let me tell what she does do. Last year, our world changed forever. In some ways we were planning on this, since we were expecting another child, which always changes things. What we were not planning on was being catapulted into a whole new cultural world. Our world was broadened and changed when we found out that Eliza was moderately deaf, and then a couple of months later, we found out Johnny was profoundly deaf. Erica, up to this point had no experience with deaf kids. She did not know a lick of sign language. She knew nothing about deaf culture, and had never imagined raising a deaf child, let alone two. This could have been enough for anyone to start questioning why things happen the way they do. As much as i would like to deny it, it was easy at first to see this as a trial and a challenge, a tragedy. Erica never did. She knew it would be hard, but she knew that raising kids would be hard. She seemed to realize from the beginning that this was not a tragedy, but a blessing. Through it, she has brought our family closer together, and has had nothing but love for our kids all the time. She has loved them unconditionally. How fortunate my kids are to have her as a mother, someone who will help them find strength in who they are, focus on being able, not disabled. She has grounded me in the knowledge that our kids are the most wonderful kids in the world. It has gotten to the point that we would be a little disappointed if our next kid was not deaf.

Besides all of this, Erica has been a wonderful mother. Our house may not be perfect, because Erica puts a priority on spending her time with the kids. She seeks out different activities to help the kids experience new and different things. She has shown me nothing but love, and has made my life worth living. She is always willing to pull me back down when need be and help me stay grounded, whether that is financially or whatever.

Erica is one of my heroes, and right now, I feel like she needs to now that, and I want others to know that. Sometimes, we get to caught up in what we are not doing right, and miss all the things that we do really well. I don't want this to be the case for Erica, because she does so many things, so well. I love her, and I look forward to our eternity together.